Girlfriend with bpd ignoring me. 5 years just broke up with me and moved out.

Girlfriend with bpd ignoring me She accused me of controlling her and trying to change her. If they come back and accuse me of not telling them I was upset I keep a screen shot. Me and your girlfriend should be friends. My girlfriend (25F) has BPD and she just broke up with me (26M). But I was young I had been abused alot in life and I thought what we had was love and it was healthy but it wasn't. Person w/o BPD If this is of any comfort to you, my BPD partner shut me out for 15 months, and then reached out to me with an apology letter that took her months to complete. Any suggestions on how to break up with her without completely fucking her up? I'm not looking for general breakup advice, I need BPD-specific advice from those who have lived it. This is such a sore spot with me, because I see it over and over with my male friends. "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they My borderline avoidant (ex)girlfriend (30F) broke up with me and I (23M) don't know what to do Today would She started ignoring my messages, my calls, she disappeared, My life completely broke down, it was days before my My one ex who had done this exact thing to me 4 times over (I eventually learned lol) didn’t have diagnosed bpd as far as I know but he would always leave me for his ex and then when things stopped working out with her, he’d send me a text saying sorry and telling me how much he missed me and that we should meet up. Furthermore, many people who have been in a romantic relationship with someone with BPD Ex BPD girlfriend will NOT let me go! how to proceed? Ex BPD girlfriend will NOT let me go! how to proceed? By chrisftw, January 18, 2015 in Breaks How do i proceed on this because obviously ignoring her isn't working! she just forces her way in by guilting me then proceeds to shower me with attention and then withdrawals and I have been with my girlfriend for over 2 years and have simply fallen out of love. We were together for almost 2 years and she always wanted to be around me. My girlfriend of 2. Or maybe not. I’ve talked to him multiple times about how it makes me feel and there is slight improvement on his part but there are days where I think he just completely disregards what I’ve told him. Wife sits at home doing nothing all day, and still their husband is supposed to share the chores evenly. My fiancé and I are friends with a couple where the woman is bpd and he’s 10years sober and very successful. My brain twists things really well and I almost manipulate myself, it feels like. Reply reply     TOPICS. What a fucking black hole of human life BPD's are. it’s happened a couple times now and it really hurts. I still care for her and her health deeply as she is someone that guided me throughout my own hardships. Someone with BPD will oftentimes not take any actions to make things better. When we were in LC she didn't seem overly interested in me and what I was doing. Every time I thought I was doing it for myself to make that person like me or love me more, and then it turns out they end up leaving One of the most prevalent symptoms of bpd is fear of abandonment and putting frantic efforts to avoid it. BPD Ignoring Texts. Just me. Mostly I just feel drained. She was suffering from drug addiction and, because I love her so much, after several attempts at getting her straight, Hi my girlfriend of 4 years she is 30 I'm 39 we have had a great time we dont live with each other shared her dreams taken her to Disney world holidays etc , but in December things started going sour, I had to pick her up Topic: Ex-Girlfriend with BPD Ignoring Me (Read 940 times) heartandmind. We've been together for quite a short period of time, 4 months now, yet I feel like I've spent at least the last 2 months wishing I never met her in the first place. Once the problem has been resolved if said person or people keep ignoring me imma say hey y'all are ignoring me AGAIN if that gets me no where I kindly ghost them and move on. Offline What is your sexual orientation: Straight Hello all! My ex-girlfriend with BPD and I broke up about three months ago. Going through this with my friend right now. Around 3 month ago i met a girl with BPD via internet and we vibed really good. Me more so cheating of course I shouldnt have done that and I have learned from that but yeah. TL;DR: My girlfriend has BPD. It isn’t always easy to be in a relationship with someone who has borderline personality disorder. Everyone knows it. She told me she needed a pause from texting me and that she knows she loves me and she wants nothing more than to be together for the future, but right know she doesn't feel that. Read the book "stop walking on eggshells", which covers healthy communication with people who have BPD. Thing is, with her, she ghosts me when she feels the slightest bit uncomfortable with anything I’ve said and instead of talking to me about it (like I’ve told her many times), she ghosts me, over and over again. You catered to her disorder. She pushed me away, told me to leave before it was too late. but she never is angry at me, we never fight for anything. Learn how to set boundaries, work toward a healthy relationship, and know when to walk away. So he dropped me cold (I'm a 30 yr old professional) and within a week had a college girlfriend and was "in a relationship" with her. After some time she ignored me for a week and after a week she told me she got a crush on another guy and was afraid of telling me. Yesterday we got into an argument over the phone where she accused me of not understanding her and being unhelpful. it can be frustrating when you're used to fight with your partners but you deserve a good relationship! i thought i needed to be punished for That's it. It caused such a turmoil within me that my headaches and migraines got turned up to 11. We met it was amazing, a few months go by and red flags began appearing. it was hard at first, because everyone else were mad at me. Feeling alone after a break up? Want help and support from someone who's been in a relationship with a Borderline? And to be able to ask any questions you wa i have bpd and i am extremely insecure and jealous, and honestly something like this would send me over the edge too. i want to know how i can help her, but also help myself at the same time. Since you are the enemy from their perspective the only possibility is that you have to make a move. Here’s what they told us: 1. 5 years just broke up with me and moved out. (And if she’s really BPD, she WILL do crazy shit sometimes temporarily—hopefully not abusive, but maybe. On the contrary, some (like me for example) will put up with any type of abuse and mistreatment as long as that person stays with them. Now i'm ignoring her, seems like the tables have turned. She is now ignoring me and is crying. However, with a non-BPD girlfriend, you'd probably also have a limit of what you can handle. What worked for me was to provide physical contact and pressure - basically hug her in my lap while she vented her negative feelings. Us BPD sufferers tend to bring a lot to the table, both positives and negatives in terms of relationships. Usually, instead of ignoring me, he'll tear at me. I appreciate her a lot, but I just simply do not see her as a partner anymore. Does anybody else have a BPD who texts constantly? Then she'll love me again. it’s been more frequent TLDR; me (m17) and my girlfriend (f17) are seniors in highschool and have been dating for 9 months but my girlfriend has bpd and her constantly changing emotions along with her love of conflict has drained me to the point where i want to break up with but i am scared she will kill herself. I also realised she had an ex who lives where she is going abroad for post-grad studies. The first month of our relationship was absolutely great: we live two hours apart from each other but that didn't stop us from contacting each other every day and having hours of conversations almost every day. During these weeks of isolation she doesn't talk to me at all. One of the major symptoms of BPD is the constant fear of loss of loved ones. She had been friends with my best friend for a long time, but as time moved on she became closer and closer to him. In her email she wished me all the best, said she hoped my projects were doing alright, that my friends and family were doing alright etc. Is it because they don't want to burden others or Then I feel bad for ignoring them and isolate even more so I don't have to explain. I did not listen to her. I'm terrified that her future will look like your girlfriend's. So, if they feel you are ignoring them, their fear of abandonment can intensify naturally, and they may lash out even more. ),she told me she was fine doing long distance but then after a week or so, she went out with a dude, which I was OK with until she started acting sus and I realized she met this If you love someone with borderline personality disorder, there are a few ways you can establish a healthy romantic relationship. Keli November 16th, 2023 . $700 night in a 4 star hotel room means nothing but her endless bitching means she "loves me so much!". Anyway, meds don't do a lot for BPD the way it does for other conditions. At first it got me worried but then I researched quite a bit about the disorder (both from psychologist youtubers and experience from random people on reddit and quora because I just wanted to understand it. My girlfriend has bpd and I do not love her . She was suffering from drug addiction and, because I love her so much, after several attempts at getting her straight, Hey! I have BPD and I do this to my boyfriend sometimes. Same bro, my girlfriend is also ignoring me for TWO DAYS! I love that little devil, but she's being nutty right now :/ Anyways, I'm with you. He'll end things and delete things off facebook that relate to If this sounds like you, please know you are not alone. I was completely shocked. She emails me and says 'hows your new gf¿ small world' So we start talking again go out a few times have a laugh start being semi intimate with each other such as massaging, touchy My best friend has BPD and is ignoring me, what can I do? Question Post My best friend has BPD, and we have talked about her diagnosis before. I read 100s of articles about BPD since and I finally hit my breaking point. You also need healthy firm boundaries, with clear communication about what Yeah I have bpd as well and major abandonment issues due to past trauma, so if I get even a hint that someone MIGHT be ignoring me, I spiral like crazy and end up convincing myself that I did something wrong. Thank you. Just after these things happened, she told me she loved me and she needed some space to study for her upcoming exams, so she hugged me tight, we kissed, (she was in tears) and I was sent back by her to my home town. Therapy options for BPD often include Dialectical Behavior If you have a partner with borderline personality disorder (BPD), it’s likely that you have experienced times when your partner has said things that were extremely hurtful, maybe even cruel. I'm crossposting this from r/relationships as I feel you guys can offer more appropriate advice. I don't know what to do. These relationships can be especially challenging if the person who has the disorder is not taking their medication or if they are refusing treatment. Offline Gender: Hang in there, it will get better My ex girlfriend was the one who dumped me and i chased after her. 5 years. honestly it fucking kills me at first, but i eventually find a “better” in my brain. We had our share of difficulties (which resulted in a relationship pause) which led to us not seeing each other for four weeks. I typically text someone else to distract myself from the lack of communication from my s/o. One thing that gets to me about the silent treatment is that she never takes responsibility for it. Forum for significant others, family and friends of people with mental illness to discuss relevant issues they face. Right now I’m her least favourite person on earth, everyone else is fine. >My girlfriend has BPD and while she does get angry sometimes, logic and calm arguments tend to calm her down. To me, you are seeing the signs of BPD. Topic: No Contact to win back ex BPD girlfriend (Read 5371 times) blueman54321. The only thing that comes up is that we have to ‘communicate’ a lot (long paragraph text back and forth HR talk) because she gets upset about something sometimes and sometimes when having sex we have to stop because she drowns in negative thoughts and can go from 60 to 0 because of it. Outside of episodes, I think adequate support is to encourage your partner to get therapy and talk to them about their feelings. Then one day just gone. Emotional dysregulation is a hallmark of Borderline Personality My ex-girlfriend with BPD and I broke up about three months ago. You already balanced your expectations for your relationship. I didn't really need to respond to her verbal content - it was about tangible demonstration that I wasn't abandoning her. 7 million adults. in my opinion, i was in the right completely. You've no doubt been ignoring so many red flags until it's become second nature, this is your wake up call. "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse Well the whole point of ignoring them is you don’t know what they get up to while doing it. She is responsible for her actions (not You're just ignoring it. Coming from the vantage point of normal, I assumed the fault had been with all those previous guys, not with her. I know that in my research on BPD, for prevalence, earlier research concluded that a higher proportion of women than men suffer from borderline personality disorder, although more recent research has determined no differences in prevalence by gender. “Ghosting” “I ghost everyone I know for various periods of time because I feel as if they don’t need or want to hear from me anyway. It's possible that she has always been a bit cold toward you, but that as the relationship gets older, you are realizing that you The only thing worse than a girlfriend who stifles you is a girlfriend who ignores you. There wasn’t a day that gone by when I didn’t have a headache and I was getting migraines 15-20 days out of the month. After this festival Chris asked Anna out on dates etc and they ended up being together. I am quiet borderline. abuse is NEVER okay or justified though, so i’m really sorry that that happened to you. This was before she knew she had BPD. I can rationally know my friends are busy and can't always attend to me, especially over the phone, but as soon as we go without talking for a while, I begin to resent them for 'ignoring me' and 'clearly not caring. Being in a relationship with someone who experiences bipolar disorder can present certain challenges. It’s not manipulation if she changed her mind, it’s manipulation that she doesn’t tell me she’s not happy with it and instead punishes me with withdrawing attention and being mad at me and ignoring me. maybe you could try to have an open conversation with your girlfriend about if she’s Since depression is a common symptom of BPD, ignoring someone with BPD can lead to counterproductive withdrawal. People like me changed myself to try and make her happy and dragged it out so long that we got to see a whole new kind of version come out. i don’t want to lose her but i also don’t want her to keep doing this to me. She was very upfront about her issues, and told me that the medication she is on currently has helped her BPD tremendously. I got split black pretty bad especially during no contact. So I met this girl, tldr, she became my first girlfriend, I'm 21,but the problem is that she had to move and we became long distance (of course everything happened very fast as usual with my infuactions. . A lot of therapy (DBT, maybe some CBT) with professionals specifically trained by BPD is the only way to make it work. A Sometimes (maybe when she feels the guilt that people with bpd feel) she says that she dont want to hurt me and asks how can i wait for her, that she wouldnt do the same for me if we switched places and she would just leave after week. Wondering why BPD’s ex-girlfriend has a new boyfriend? They will say goodbye due to fear of “engulfment” and at other times when they feel “abandoned,” they will come back. Wisemind; Ending conflict (3 minute lesson) Listen with Empathy; Can't work out if she is deliberately ignoring me to hurt me, or feels absolutely nothing for me anymore (devalued or discarded?) My BPD ex has tried to slander me through random phone numbers (she’s blocked) but also has said she still loves me. I know deep down she will but of course I have my doubts. Yes, seems normal. (She is officially diagnosed with BPD. My girlfriend has BPD, and has brought up to me many, many times about how she feels the need to make me feel jealous and seeing me act jealous and possessive. BPD is born out of childhood trauma (usually there are a rare through times that it isn’t) and when you go through a lot as a child your brain develops differently to ‘normal people’ like us. 18 things to do if your girlfriend is ignoring you 1) Find out why. She's already trying to start a relationship with a new guy (already has, really. I think it is very important that, as ridiculous and absurd as it is to you some of the things your girlfriend might say to you when she’s splitting, you should remember that to her these feelings are insanely real. I see a lot of posts on here talking about their girlfriends. You're going to get a lot of "it's hopeless, run for your life. I just agreed with whatever she said. Girlfriend with BPD broke up and blocked me on all social media and text - so confused . After like 4 days of her totally ignoring me I just messaged her saying I’m assuming you My girlfriend (18f) has BPD and is driving me insane! My (20m) phone died while I was on my way to work and I didn’t have time to charge it. I don’t mind the clinginess, I find it cute but my girlfriend expects me to ALWAYS be down to see her and text her. ) It sorta “helped” me too, in a way that I don’t get irritated that much by others ignoring me or lashing out at me, but at the same time I feel like I will never find someone who genuinely will care for me and am considering now to even stop trying. I do hope that's not what is going on because his girlfriend is a childhood friend and doesn't deserve that. It’s important to remember that people with BPD who struggle with communicating directly are not doing so to As if it it was me who had been been ignoring her! Before I could reply, she phoned and I managed to keep my calm and we had a normal conversation, not bringing up the silent spell (the elephant in the room). As soon as I think someone is wanting to see the "real" me, I freeze or ghost which looks like me cancelling plans, being too busy, not returning texts, etc. My whole world crashed when she told me that, i knew she had bpd from the beginning (alongside with other stuff) but i kinda forgot because the time was really beautiful. One of the most common and frustrating symptoms of BPD is the tendency to ignore texts. being angry at someone for talking to their parents when they said they would talk to me, those emotions are still going to happen, and when they happen to us, they happen tenfold, they’re intense, they take Nothing gets me more worked up than when he leaves me on read or seeing that he’s read my message and is online but not replying. She has not been diagnosed (at least not recently, a few years ago I believe BPD was mentioned to her), but I'm about 99. (When of course duing the honeymoon BPD period, he spoke of his dreams of getting married, having a family, and finding happiness). Hey y'all, Wondering if my ex girlfriend who has BPD will come back. Sometime ago I meet a girl with BPD and we got a good vibe. Self deprecation to hear you say the positives and try to fill the void. she relieved to me that her mother has BPD and I began researching and found out that she had a lot of the same tendencies associated with it. This situation has made me realize that I don't need him - it is a choice. I've had 3 therapists either quit or tell me they're not qualified to help my daughter. If you're going to make allowances for her BPD then just don't expect fidelity. Topic: Ex-Girlfriend with BPD Ignoring Me (Read 932 times) heartandmind. i can fuck up and everytime she just is kind, and gentle with me. Shortly after seemed 'happy' with new people. Now, after months of NC, she contacts me with a brief, but loving message checking up to see how I am going. I have a girlfriend with BPD My girl friend usually ignores me and/or even when she talk to me over the phone, her tone changes when she is with her friends (girls). All humans do this 24/7. Hey guys, my girlfriend suffers from depression and i would like to know if it is normal on down times for people that suffers from depression to ignore people that are close to them. She can go to fucking hell. some old mutual friends of ours (people i cut off, she kept around) hacked my mums fb, posted how i should’ve been aborted, yada yada yada My girlfriend with BPD told me a while back that her "fp" (a term quite new to me) wasnt me. Naw, that's not what sharing responsibilities is about. 93K subscribers in the BPDlovedones community. Despite the intense and disruptive symptoms people with BPD and their loved ones must cope with, people with BPD often have many positive qualities that can make them great romantic partners some of the time. A few nights ago when we were doing the deed, I told her I wanted to stop after we both finished as I had work very early the next morning. She never did that to me before and I didn't know what was going on. WELL YOU KNOW, SOME PEOPLE HAVE THESE THINGS CALLED EMOTIONS, And it made me mad that my husband wasn't fulfilling my needs to the point I felt like I should see other people. You call me a “pothead” as if you know how much weed I smoke. The intense emotions, fear of abandonment, and fluctuating self-image that characterize BPD often influence relationships in profound ways. So don’t fucking do it—no matter what crazy and/or abusive shit she does to you. That's probably not going to go away. She was right. Maybe that would be a bad, bad idea. ' That summer we all went to a festival: me & Gary along with Jess, Anna and Chris which is where Anna and Chris truly met. This was only five days after our last text, but also what prompted her to ignore me for a month straight after sending three text messages about a week apart. He'll say really mean things. Manipulation, difficulty controlling and regulating emotions, and the consequences of fear of abandonment are the It can lead to toxic BPD to take advantage and still do damage to you. However, this is usually followed by significant anxiety and In addition, blocking helps to reduce the number of negative interactions that people with BPD have on social media. Turns out she found a guy and lied to me and everyone else about it. she loves you just like you are. So you just broke up with your borderline ex-partner (who suffers from borderline personality disorder, that is). People with BPD (pwBPD) are so emotionally immature that they have a weak and unstable sense of who they really are. - My girlfriend had told me that the engagement party, my sister said something to her which was offensive; I foolishly asked my sister about it who denied it; I closed the chapter saying it was a misunderstanding; she of course used this I don't think that's right if the girlfriend is not getting treatment. If your girlfriend has BPD, encouraging her to seek therapeutic support can be transformative for both her individual well-being and your relationship. I blame myself for being this weak and pathetic. S. We’ve been friends for several months, and she has been ignoring me and my texts for a little over a week now. You want that person to be with you and Ignoring or unknowingly not knowing about someone from your close circle affected by Borderline personality disorder can exacerbate the situation. Read More about Borderline Personality Disorder Mirroring Factors affecting BPD behavior of discarding someone. When my ex split me black and blocked me from her life and social media I was a lot like you. She did mean things, blaming he relapse on me and gaslighting me in the process, even though I was her ‘most loyal friend’. When I’m with her she’s the sweetest thing. People with BPD may be sensitive to rejection and abandonment and are prone to splitting, rage, and impulsivity. She told me she doesn't want a relationship atm so we became more like friends. Is this normal? We are just 4 months and this situation started two weeks now after her friends moved to her side. I know that people with BPD self isolate but I'm yet to understand why. This post makes me happy. The silent treatment at this point in our generation is a cliche. Here’s what to do. It caused me such stress I developed a heart condition that needed an ablation Topic: Ignoring someone with BPD (Read 2632 times) Bak86. I know she will miss me again in about 2 or 3 months but it is over. She was suffering from drug addiction and, because I love her so much, after several attempts at getting her BPD ghosting is when someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) suddenly stops all forms of communication with a person or group without warning or explanation. It sucks cuz yesterday he “ignored” me for 8 hrs and I got pissed off. 245 votes, 347 comments. CW: Suicide They are the ones that say "if they only reached out" after ignoring them OR choice 2) Treat that annoying person with prudent, polite, perhaps love or civil ignoring them. He also claimed he just wasn't ready for a relationship. Her mood hasn’t been stable because she stopped her antidepressants since it was affecting her sexual libido. For me, I am not usually 100% myself around people. Has your girlfriend's behaviour actually changed toward you? Is it possible that you're feeling depressed or anxious about something, and that you're imagining that her behaviour is worse than normal?. I feel like a burden to anyone's life, my girlfriend is the same. Came here to say the exact same thing. 9% sure she has BPD. It was my best friend (m18) and we are in a heterosexual relationship. If this is happening to you, I’m genuinely sorry! I’ve been there. I would like to communicate to him that it was not nice to just ditch something he said he would do to help me out. Personally, when someone decides to give me the silent treatment (ignoring my call, late text reply, etc) instead of a healthy My quiet exBPD told me I didn't respect her BPD due to me not respecting the silent treatment she gave me and self harmed herself because of that, afterwards telling me I was a risk for her and discarded me. I just know that when i will accept her in my life again, After being separate and hardly communicating for about 8 months (she blocked me on all media except for email) my BPD ex with emailed me about a month ago to wish me a happy birthday (I became thirty). This means they have virtually no sense of personal boundaries - If you’ve recognized some of these possible reasons why your partner with BPD is ignoring your texts, you can breathe a little easier knowing it’s not your fault and that it’s something that, despite being incredibly painful, is One key part of being in a relationship with a pwBPD is that the "non" (the person without BPD) needs to build relational tools and skills that aren't always intuitive. Believe me, your girlfriend probably knows I left my girlfriend with BPD for the reasons we all know here, infidelities, lies, abuse, she used to get physical when she drank Anyway, after catching her in one last lie where she went on a trip with her ex (she told me she went with a friend), I left her. Why is it justified for BPD to say "Oh you triggered me" when they would not take it if another person do something to them and say "Oh you triggered me" ! I would be the boyfriend who got dumped by my girlfriend with bpd out of the blue in this situation. BPD or not I'm not gonna let other ppl ruin my life. " Ive never been directly hurt by a BPD girlfriend so I'll look at it from a different angle. Here’s how they handle relationships. But, it's also not your problem. Like a regular breakup, you’re probably feeling all types of emotions and have my best friend has bpd and she’s currently extremely angry at me, she actually blocked me and told me she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. People with BPD can sometimes forget they’re loved, so just stay consistent with showing your affection. If a person with BPD feels rejected or abandoned, they may end the relationship. It's been quite some time since I'd last spoken to my BPD ex. That’s just part of the disorder. quite a lot of people. You never existed for Father with a BPD daughter here, so not exactly your situation. After spending time with her incredibly toxic mother, who never liked me and has also never met me either time we dated, she decided to break up with me via phone call and get back together with her ex that she’d been broken up with for a year but who she’s dated for 2. ) She left me yesterday after a 9 month long relationship, out of the blue. Never again. It can lead to them feeling truly abandoned, confirming fears and them damaging themselves. She finally told me she ‘loves me just not in that way’. Basically control myself. I want to make up with him-- I'm afraid for what action to take. My girlfriend is ignoring ME, but will answer replies on facebook, on whats APP group, etc She is also doing it to a very very close friend of hers. I don’t recommend it. We wanted to know what kinds of things people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) do that are code for “don’t leave me,” so we asked our Mighty BPD community to share their experiences with us. W friends. It’s no secret that people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be difficult to get along with. I just have a feeling. What should I do, my fp is ignoring me . The strange thing to me is, I Topic: Girlfriend ignores me (Read 907 times) TheKrustyKrab. And it's kinda insane that most of the time the other person does NOT see it that way and has no idea anything is wrong in the first place. Offline slowly ignoring her, I think it was a subconscious attempt to bore her to death so she would leave), she was terrible to live with, hard work in every respect, and constantly pushing her self destruct button, irresponsible with money, She told me that before meeting me she had decided to be alone for the rest of her life. BPD is a serious disorder. I've also seen various comments from persons w/BPD that ignoring them is unforgivable - a mortal sin. It came as a shock to me. That said, good luck getting someone with BPD to actually put forth an equal effort in the My girlfriend told me that recently she's been under a lot of stress from work (most stressed I've ever seen her) and that she's reached a point where she's just so exhausted and stressed in all aspects of her life to the point where she had to sit me down and tell me that she doesn't even know if she loves me anymore and she doesnt know if she wants the relationship anymore but It's all about resisting the urge to coddle, caretake, and make special exceptions. I defended himself and set boundaries for their relationship, proving her that I do care about her and want to help her. So a few days ago my girlfriend suddenly started dissappearing from home, not answering my calls. But be careful how you act since we teach Hey, So my ex partner who suffers from BPD contacts me after 16 months whe she finds out i went on a date. I think my friend is ignoring me 💭Seeking Support & Advice Okay, i know this will probably sound like i'm overreacting and being annoying but this feeling is overwhelming me at the moment. Do borderlines come back after discard? BPD Only Affects Women: While BPD is diagnosed more frequently in women, it affects both genders. For example, Someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) may start giving you the silent treatment. Fewer than 3 Posts Offline Hi everyone, My girlfriend of 7 months has BPD and when she "acts out" she withdraws and isolates herself for weeks on end. I want this breakup to be as easy as I can do it. Show To make matters worse, it is often easy to misinterpret the behaviors of those diagnosed with BPD which can lead to incorrect expectations within relationships causing miscommunication and As someone getting married to his GF (BPD) soon, I can give you this advice: Make sure you have what it takes to 'deal with' the whole package. population or 5. 6% of the U. Right from the get go, she opened up about that she was professionally diagnosed with BPD. Of course sex is a sensitive issue and you aren't going to want to come across as insensitive - but, I imagine that would be true with a non-BPD girlfriend, as well. Often people with BPD will see the entire world as against them and so they will turn that anger around on the rest of the world. I told her this (had no plan of Ex-Girlfriend with BPD Ignoring Me. I've been dating this girl for two and a half months. I suppose she still talks to her friends, because I see her posting Girlfriend with BPD completely ghosted me Learning about BPD I (24m) started dating a girl (22f) with bpd about a month ago. i love her but i have gotten to the point where i think Dating someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be challenging. Let me put it this way. I feel bad about it, but I think I'm saving them from real disappoinment in the end. I care for her as a human being and hope she is well and living a happy life. I wanted her back. The interesting thing to me about this right now is that he's acting different that usual when he dissociates from me. Forgive me if I'm being overly glib, you've got a LOT on your plate right now, but unfortunately there's no easy answers here. I was just diagnosed with borderline after my 3rd trip to the emergency psychiatric ward. My partner even does therapy homework with me sometimes, and we talk a lot about skills. I think it was an impulsive decision. Note: my friends stopped ignoring me now that she left, I asked them why they ignored me and said the couldn´t stand her hurting me again. I don't know who he's texting or what he has to say because in person he really doesn't talk, but I suspect it is to line up someone to cheat on his girlfriend with. And thats kind of new for me. i recently lost my childhood best friend too. First and foremost, try to find out why your girlfriend is ignoring you. It becomes more frequent and eventually more vile. We asked The Mighty’s BPD community about what the things they do that are code for feeling unloved. Now ,the fact that we think they might come back gets us stuck in there , I read a lot learned a lot , but I am still wanting another go at it , it's personal and my decision I know her she is a messed up child , we all have problems , I just dated a girl for two days , she had to stay with me a night or two in another bedroom , I saw the signs of BPD big time after 5 hours of I have 1 irl BPD friend and sometimes I can tell when she’s feeling this way. I (20m) am in a happy and loving relationship with my girlfriend (22f) and she has BPD. I know that me breaking up with her is going to cause her a great deal of pain and that's unavoidable but I'd like to mitigate it as much as possible. I got a lot of this: "OH, LOOK AT ME, I'M THEBPDLOVEDONESPOST, I AM SO CALM, TOO BAD EVERYONE CAN'T BE LIKE ME. Like many other posts recommended, it’s good to visualize your s/o as busy, but it’s also good for you to be actively engaged elsewhere like a conversation with a friend. Ask yourself if she's actually ignoring you. "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse Is my ex girlfriend with bpd (probably) trying to make me reach out to her during no contact ? BPD Behaviors & Traits Many people with BPD live with the constant fear of abandonment, so when you find something that makes your relationships feel solid, it’s worth seeking that feeling out when you can (so long as what you’re doing is safe I never laughed. “ I have BPD and I would say my biggest embarrassing symptom would be promiscuity. After some meetings i was sure i liked her but a releationship wont work between us but wanted du be friends with her. My girlfriend has BPD. I love her a lot, and she makes me feel special. PS. You can break her by just yelling, saying hurtful things, hitting, ignoring, embarrassing, or making fun of her. Fuck her. Men may be underdiagnosed due to societal expectations and differing symptom presentations. I'm curious if anyone has any experience with this? - I don't want a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship with her, I want a friendship - which I know I can't have, because she's not a friend, According to the Cleveland Clinic, bipolar disorder affects approximately 2. Yo guys. She's online and ignoring me, I've tried to explain in the past that it really sets me off and even just a little response would mean a lot, but unfortunately she's either talking to me or completely ignoring me. Sometimes, when she doesn’t reply for awhile, or she cancels plans or anything, my entire day gets ruined and I’m just convinced she fucking hates me and is only using me for some reason. coming from a person with bpd, transparency and honesty helps so much. I have a girlfriend I’ve know for 4 years now almost 5 I’ve been in love with her since I was 12 we’ve always had falling outs but we always found our way back to each other I really think she’s the one for me but today we got into an argument about a really dumb joke I said it hurt her and I begged her to forgive me but she kept saying it was over and we’re breaking up and she She told me she needed a pause from texting me and that she knows she loves me and she wants nothing more than to be together for the future, but right know she doesn't feel that. She always had an answer or an "alibi". It may involve ceasing Hey guys i have to tell a longer story for better understanding. We were LC with me initiating brief messages until such time as I gave up. If this sounds like you, trust us when we say you’re not alone. Especially when he’s out with friends and he’s online but not texting me I start obsessively checking and start seething and I can understand that. People with BPD are Dangerous : While some individuals with BPD may exhibit self-harming behaviors or impulsivity, it doesn’t mean they’re inherently dangerous. Seeking Support I don’t know if I should text him again or if I should ask him why he’s doing this, but I’m starting to lose it and I’ve never felt lonelier, this is really scary. I don't know if you guys are like me, but I pretty much start to question my entire existence when stuff like this happens. In most posts I see from someone with a partner with BPD, it seems the partner with BPD is still struggling with coping with their emotions & gaining a better grasp on their actions/reactions. She's been ignoring me for weeks now and blocking me, and twice she's asked me questions relating to girls; "have you been talking to any cute girls lately" and "do you have a girlfriend now" which she asked while she was in a rebound. Some people with bpd will have trouble keeping relationships and eventually sabotage them like your gf did. Here’s how. hey im a person with BPD and me and my boyfriend have the same issue, the thing is that a recovering BPD person i know that even though my emotions may be irrational ie. r/BPD is a community of people with BPD Members Online • mmmdinoadhdlove . We used to talk for long now only short conversation. After some time I got a crush on her und told her. And she says "I can't do that! You make me so angry!" Right. That thought brings me not so much calmness, but rather emotional numbness and quiet despair. I just tried to make up for being blunter than usual by saying "I just wanna say how lucky I am to have such a pretty, lovely girl like you, thank you for putting up with me, I know it can be a lot" that's not really confusing, and I don't project my upset, my entire attitude over text doesn't change, all it'll be is something like "I'm a little down right now so I'm sorry if I'm off!! Now ,the fact that we think they might come back gets us stuck in there , I read a lot learned a lot , but I am still wanting another go at it , it's personal and my decision I know her she is a messed up child , we all have problems , I just dated a girl for two days , she had to stay with me a night or two in another bedroom , I saw the signs of BPD big time after 5 hours of She did me so wrong and I dont think I can forgive her. My girlfriend seems to be really into me, but yesterday pretty much ignored me all day, then again this morning. (Fyi- Anna told me straight up that she had bpd and was very honest about it from the beginning of our relationship). Boyfriend/Girlfriend with BPD; Partner or Spouse with BPD; Surviving a Failed Romantic Relationship; Tools. We remained friends briefly but I had to go no contact, she was splitting me black with push pull cycles without realizing it and it was getting too toxic for me. And if he isn't or can't do something he has promised -he needs to tell me so I can make other arrangements. When she's ignoring me, she's hanging out with other guys, sleeping around when she gets wasted, and just overall ruining her life. She knew herself better than anyone. I literally feel anxiety/grief just typing this. First and foremost recognise you can' fix this for her - the primary responsibility for doing the work is hers, and if this is going to work at all, she has to do it, with you supporting up to a point. Don't ignore. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) affects many areas of a person’s life, including their relationships. We must not have dated the same person. I am reaching out to this sub, which during our relationship I often read for clarity, in the hopes of better understanding. Been dating for about six months. We both fucked up. She went full block - out of sight out of mind. Ever since (2 days ago) he has been ignoring me and hasn't said a word, won't reply to my messages, won't even open the app to look at them. I've been dating this BPD girl for about 1 month. Usually I tell him goodnight if he ignores me for too long. He can warp his facts all he wants. We were on the phone one night and she told me how much she loved me and how she wanted us. It sets me off so badly :( I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about a year now and since the first week we met she’s always been so loving, caring, always checking up on me, texting me and all that. It's truly annoying and I'm simply wondering why people with BPD do this. My BPD girlfriend killed herself Thursday night. TLDR: my girlfriend ignored me and talked about how she wants to meet with a bar tender again when I wasn’t able to go out with her. This hasn't been the first time something like this has happened, usually he doesn't ignore me/avoid me for this long. She would be hot and cold etc. Starting a Romantic Relationship When Someone Has BPD . Understanding the dynamics of BPD and learning how to navigate these unique challenges is key to a healthy and supportive partnership. People with borderline personality disorder may go through relationship cycles and stages. She’s extremely physically affectionate, fun to be around, and she’ll reassure me when I ask, but man. Me and my girl we both are in a relationship for the past 7 years,we had fights we avoid eachother,we stopped talking to eachother but never got separated,we always find a way to get back together, for the last 2 years she went abroad and am in our home country,she was diagnosed with BPD there and now she is always ignoring me,seen and not This really bothers me. I am 27 but only recently diagnosed. smggblv qwrl hthis pthxyt lwui ehl eahhz luoc kla bvcho